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They’re Older and Richer

Sex For Money or Gifts

Some relationships between older people and young people can have trust, love, honesty, equality and open communication. But almost always the older person has more money and power than you. They may even offer you money, buy you gifts or offer to pay for things you need if you sleep with them.

What’s wrong with that?

If that person is older, there may be laws that prohibit them having sex with you. If you are under 16 years old, no one can legally have sex with you. If they are a teacher, you may be able to charge them with sexual harassment. If they are a family member, it may be incest.

Don’t buy HIV from older men in exchange for a cell phone, dress, handbag or some cash. Those items will age but HIV will remain with you for a lifetime. An unplanned pregnancy could also ruin your future education.

If you look around your community, you will find many women who got out of poverty without exchanging their body for gifts. If you work hard, get educated and either work for yourself or an agency, you can buy all the dresses, bags or cell phones you need. Who is more at risk - guys or girls? Find out below.


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Anna B

Thanks Tune Me for the information, it has really been helpful to me. Am an orphan who lives with her uncle. Due to lack of basic needs like food, I started having sexual activities with older men so that in exchange, I would be given money to buy clothes, food and groceries. These older men never used a condom on me and they never gave me a chance to negotiate. Thus where I got the money to buy this phone that am using. My friend introduced me to Tuneme and read the stories and I decided to change. So since that day, I went to the hospital for an HIV testing, where I was found negative, I realised that I have to stop my old ways, now I have gone back to school and I vow to say if I have to have sex again, I will use condoms and go for family planning methods and counselling

4 years, 9 months Ago Report

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